1. PLEASURE
SEEK AT ALL TIMES TO PLEASE YOUR SPOUSE. IT IS NOT SO MUCH AS YOU BEING SATISFIED BUT RATHER YOUR SPOUSE BEING SATISFIED.
MANY WIVES DON’T EXPERIENCE AN ORGASM (SEXUAL CLIMAX). PRE-EJACULATION MUST BE DEALT WITH IN ORDER TO HAVE GOOD SEX. A CHRISTIAN SEX THERAPIST SHOULD BE CONSULTED.
BY GOING TO A CHRISTIAN SEX THERAPIST WE WOULD RECEIVE COUNSEL AND ADVICE THAT WILL BE MORALLY SOUND AND BASED ON GOD’S WORD.
MANY MARRIAGES FAIL, ENDING UP IN DIVORCE, SIMPLY BECAUSE TOO MANY HUSBANDS ARE TO PROUD TO CONSULT A SEX THERAPIST.
SADLY MANY MARRIED COUPLES END UP DIVORCED BECAUSE THEIR SPOUSES DO NOT MEET THEIR SEXUAL NEEDS. JUST AS THE HUSBAND WOULD GRATIFY THE SEXUAL NEEDS OF THE WIFE IN THE SAME WAY THE WIFE SHOULD ENDEAVOUR TO MEET THE SEXUAL NEEDS OF HER HUSBAND.
2. THE IMPORTANCE OF FOREPLAY
FOREPLAY PLAYS A VITAL ROLE NOT ONLY IN STIMULATING EACH OTHER FOR SEX, IT ALSO BRINGS TREMENDOUS SATISFACTION. HOWEVER FOREPLAY IS TO BE UNDERSTOOD ALSO IN THE LIGHT OF HOW HUSBAND AND WIFE TREAT EACH OTHER DURING THE DAY. KIND WORDS, KIND ACTIONS ARE OFTEN GOOD EXPRESSIONS OF FOREPLAY. OUR WORDS AND ACTIONS ARE TO PREPARE US FOR SEX.
MANY HUSBANDS AND WIFES WONDER WHY THEIR SPOUSES ARE NOT RESPONDING. THE ANSWER IS SO SIMPLE DURING THE DAY UNKIND WORDS AND UNKIND ACTIONS HAVE BEEN SPOKEN.
3. NO SECRETS
TO HAVE GOOD SEX HUSBANDS AND WIVES MUST NOT BE ASHAMED IN CONVEYING TO EACH OTHER WHAT BRINGS THEM PLEASURE. TELL EACH OTHER WHAT TO DO, AND WHERE TO TOUCH AND WHEN TO TOUCH.
4. TALK TO EACH OTHER ABOUT SEX
TALK TO EACH OTHER ABOUT WAYS TO IMPROVE YOUR SEX LIFE. READ GOOD CHRISTIAN LITERATURE ON SEX. AGREE ON SEXUAL POSITIONS THAT BOTH ARE COMFORTABLE WITH.
5. HEALTHY HYGIENE
HEALTHY HYGIENE IS ESSENTIAL TO HAVING GOOD SEX. BAD BREATH, SMELLY FEET ARE MAJOR TURN OFFS.
6. WHAT TURNS SPOUSES OFF FROM HAVING SEX?
CONSTANT NEEDLESS ARGUMENTS AND UNFORGIVENESS WILL ROB YOU OF GOOD SEX. IN FACT NEVER DO HAVE SEX WHEN ANGRY WITH EACH OTHER.
7. THE BEDROOM
REMEMBER THE HOLY OF HOLIES IN YOUR MARRIAGE IS YOUR BEDROOM. IT IS THAT SPECIAL PLACE IN THE HOME THAT IS EXCLUSIVE FOR HUSBAND AND WIFE. IT MUST ALWAYS BE TIDY AND ATTRACTIVE. DURING WINTER MONTHS IT MUST BE KEPT WARM. WHEN THE ROOM IS COLD IT IS NOT CONDUSIVE FOR SEX. IN SUMMER TIME THE BEDROOM MUST BE MUST WELL VENTILATED. IT MUST SMELL NICE.
MAKE SURE THE BEDROOM IS NOT CLUSTERED AND OVER FURNISHED. THE BEDROOM SHOULD BE SPACIOUS.
8. YOUR DIET
WATCH YOUR WEIGHT. DO NOT EAT TOO MUCH WHEN PLANNING TO HAVE SEX. CONSULT YOUR SEX THERAPIST FOR A GOOD MENU.
9. EXERCISE
SOMEONE ONCE SAID THAT SEX IS HARD WORK. AN UNFIT PERSON WILL NOT TRULY ENJOY SEX. OTHER THAN THAT THE SPOUSE WILL NOT BE SATISFIED AS WELL. SOMEONE ELSE ALSO SAID: “NO EXERCISE NO SEXERCISE.”
10. UNDERSTANDING THE SEXUAL DRIVES
MEN ARE TURNED ON BY WHAT THEY SEE. OFTEN WIVES COME TO BED DRESSED FROM NECK TO ANKLE. HUSBANDS ARE TURNED ON BY THEIR WIVES ANATOMY. SOMEONE SAID: “DON’T HIDE IT, FLAUNT IT.”
WOMEN ARE TURNED ON BY TOUCH AND THEREFORE THE WIFE SHOULD UNASHAMEDLY ADVISE THE HUSBAND OF WHAT PARTS OF HER ANATOMY SHOULD BE CARESSED AND FONDLED.
11. KNOWING WHAT THE BIBLE TEACHES
MANY CHRISTIAN COUPLES ARE UNAWARE OF GOD’S EXPLICITNESS ON SEX.
THROUGHOUT THE BIBLE SEX IS OPENLY DISCUSSED. THESE SCRIPTURES MUST BE READ AND KNOWN BY BOTH SPOUSES.
SADLY BECAUSE MANY DO NOT KNOW THE SCRIPTURES THYE HAVE A VERY RELIGIOUS SEX LIFE.
12. PRAY
ALWAYS PRAY ABOUT YOUR SEX LIFE. ASK GOD TO GIVE YOU THE ABILITY TO ALWAYS PLEASE AND SATISFY YOUR SPOUSE.
13. DATING
IT IS ESSENTIAL THAT AT LEAST ONE NIGHT PER WEEK THAT HUSBAND AND WIFE DATE EACH OTHER. EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE ELSE IS PUT ASIDE AND THEY CONCENTRATE SOLELY ON EACH OTHER. THIS IS THEIR NIGHT OF ROMANCE.
14. RESPECT
NEVER EVER TALK OF WHAT TAKES PLACE IN YOUR BEDROOM TO OTHERS.
15. BIRTHDAYS AND ANNIVERSARIES
ALWAYS REMEMBER EACH OTHERS SPECIAL DAYS. BLESS EACH OTHER WITH FLOWERS AND GIFTS.
16. MENSTRUAL PERIOD
DO NOT HAVE SEX DURING THE WIFE’S MENSTRUAL PERIOD. IT IS FORBIDDEN IN SCRIPTURE (LEV 15:19-24,32,33).
GOD BLESS
DR JOSEPH AND DOLORES D’ALLENDE
